How do I say thank you for the gifts that God has given me, how do I thank him enough for the gift of life, and the ability to use what I have been given to serve in any way I can. There are no words to express my gratitude for the life and well being of my children, most of all I thank God for bringing and birthing my children into a free world, a place where they can be who God created them to be, where they can be beautiful and imperfectly perfect in their own right. Thank you, verbally can be express with my mouth. Thank you can also be express in how you honor your own life, how you choose to use your gift to serve others, how you give of yourself to teach, and to learn, to serve, and to love demonstrates great gratitude to the world. To be free is not a privilege or something another man can gift to you, it is a right and the privilege is how you use it to gift another man.
I am so impressed and in love with Humanity, there is nothing more powerful than love it is the beginning the substance and the ending of all things, and I cannot ever get used to the way it transcends, transforms, and heals. Its reach is limitless and I cannot think of one thing in my life that the pure effects of love have not touched. I know that there are those that have yet to find their way or a way to fulfill their purpose to others, and are still struggling and lost with very little options, but there are also many many people that for the most part are making a point to be better and to make the world a better place, and I know and feel we are getting really close to doing that, I think that a lot of us want that for each other and there are people working toward that and are inspiring others to do the same, so yes, I believe in us changing the world it is possible and humanity is such a vital element in doing so, I have seen it, I can feel it and it is an amazing experience, it is powerful and transforming, and a beautiful thing to see, humanity is like having a Magic wand and those that are touched are forever touched, and that brings about goodness in the world.
How sure are you in yourself and who you are because it will be tested. In life, there will be challenges and forces that seem to work against you, people that turn their backs and turn on you, rejection disappoinment and all the other unpredictable blows that life hands you, but thats why knowing who you are and what you want is enormously important.,I know you have to believe in your purpose or dream and honor it by giving it a name and speaking about it every chance you get even if it is to yourself, we have to give it life and trust it to change yours. If you are secure and centered in yourself no mateer what predicaments and challeges come along you will stand strong in your in your awareness and ability to carry through in the direction of your purpose, there is nothing that can stop you but you. Life is going to happen with or without us, and no, we cannot predict what will happen but we can choose to continue our journey to accomplish our dreams and purpose in life. No one can take it from you because it was made for you and it it yours, what ever it is , it is yours.
I know it is hard to celebrate ourselves and harder to put ourselves in the equation of being taken care of, but listen it is a major part of healing and learning new behaviors on how to be good to you. Please let’s get out of the habit of “oh it’s nothing Its not a big deal” the thing we say all time and really mean, but we have to program ourselves to accept and build on the small wins and accomplishments, know that what you are doing is something to be proud od big or small, baby steps are progress too and need to be celebrated as such, I love and I believe in you all.
I always misunderstood what forgiveness really consist of and for good reason because you never really understand until it’s your turn to do it. The meaning to me and many others forgiveness on its face can mean just something that happens when someone hurts and angers you, or if you hurt and anger someone else, after you make up and move on right? is that what forgiveness is, or is it something different altogether. Well today I know and understand what forgiveness is and it is an emergency that you do too, the circumstance or atrocities can vary such as, a mother of a murdered child, a family affected by a serial killer, failing in life, thoughts of abandonment by God, fatherless children, motherless child, tragedy after tragedy, loss after loss, mental and physical abuse and the list goes on on, because we all suffer our own misfortune. Now its what you do with all the pain and disappointment, you may not recognize its origin but you know its damage or effect, how and why this happened or continues to happen and that consumes your ability to think logically or clear, or matter of fact is there any logic or clarity involved, it just doesn’t make sense you tell yourself. The blame has to be designated and you cannot figure out who not to blame, yourself, God, family your husband or companion, the time, a drunk driver, the circumstance, the lies and deceit, the world, I mean who isn’t at fault. It is a life or time of living hell and torture to the mind and soul harboring and holding this poison that has taken a life of its own, it doesn’t need you anymore to exist because at this point that thing, that person, the poison is just taken you along for the ride, rather you want to or not you have long ago given up the choice to decide.
UNTIL, that day the moment the whisper,”JUST LET GO” and it is clear that you have suffered enough, that whatever happened was something you may never understand but that burden is no longer your. Tere is a big blessing that comes from letting go and it is something I cannot explain but can feel from the bottom of your tippy toes to the chambers of your heart and soul, forgiving is not condoning or it is not forgetting but is a pure act of releasing the effervescent energy that has been divinely gifted to you. “How free you can be if you let go of yours and give it to me” This is a mantra I have come up with in the depth of suffering and in the midst of wickedness, when I need to free my mind and cleanse my soul, and I share this with you in hopes that you may not analyze or understand, but that you can feel and embody the power that comes from releasing.
If you’re waiting for life to get easier before you begin to show up, then I guess we will never meet. The way to success depends on how much your willing to work for it, and yes its difficult and moments of pure helplessness and confusing will be overwhelming, so cry through the tears and hurt through the failure but keep moving, nobody can move that train but you. I can honestly tell you that there are times I am completely lost and out of ideas but my desperation and uncomfortably drives me through it, praying to God to please show me the way, direct me to another idea or opportunity that will help me understand what my next move should be and to allow me to see or figure out that next idea that can work for me. search, learn to discover the possible openings into a new idea or option until you hit pay dirt. It’s there it will happen, one of those ideas or prayers are going to open that door for you, that door that is made only for you so keep thinking, keep crying through the tears, keep failing, and most of all keep believing because it will happen, one of the doors is yours just keep exploring until it opens.
5 Signs You’re Settling for Less Than You Deserve
Some years ago, I was shopping and came upon a beautiful red dress. The color, style and length were perfect. But the store didn’t have it in my size. It did, however, have the same dress in navy, which I wasn’t crazy about. Then I noticed a pair of blue shoes nearby that complemented that blue dress. (I didn’t love those, either.) So what did I do? I bought both. I was afraid I wouldn’t find anything else, so I settled. (It won’t surprise you to learn that I’ve never worn the dress or the shoes.)
You’ve probably heard the saying “Better the devil you know than the devil you don’t.” Here’s a question: Why put up with any devil? Why not give ourselves only good things? When we believe we cannot have what we desire—when we lack faith in ourselves and in the goodness of life—we settle for less. We decide that whatever is in front of us is better than nothing. But believe me when I tell you that better than nothing isn’t good enough.
I often see people settle for less than they deserve in personal relationships: accepting bad behavior, excusing broken promises, accommodating people who take more than they give. Why? Because doing things we’ve grown accustomed to is familiar, comfortable.
Which is why sometimes it can be tough to gauge whether we’re settling: When we tell ourselves that things are fine, we soon forget that they could be better. Here’s how to know whether you’re putting up with less than you deserve:
- When you have to work yourself into a state of excitement rather than naturally experiencing joy and passion, you’re probably settling.
- When you bargain with yourself about what you can do without rather than feeling gratitude for what you already have, you’re probably settling.
- When your focus is on the time and energy you’ve invested in an endeavor rather than the love, joy and gratification you’ve gained, you’re probably settling.
- When you’re making excuses about why you should stay put rather than going for what you truly want, you’re probably settling.
- When you spend more time complaining about what you have than appreciating it, you’re definitely settling.But there is a lesson to be learned in everything. When we realize we’ve been settling, we discover what we actually believe. We learn that we perhaps think ourselves undeserving of happiness and find how susceptible we are to outside influences—because often we settle when others convince us it’s the right thing to do. Most important, we learn that we are not standing fully in our truth. Armed with this information, we can make new choices that support our desires—by beginning to believe that we can have what we really want.
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When you take the mystery from your minds next move you free your life to boundless possibilities, I know I have said this before but it is a daily ritual to surrender to every opportunity and create the experience you desire. If you feed your mind with positive affirmations and choices directed towards succeeding at something in your day it becomes a habit, no matter how small the accomplishment is it ignites the fire that pushes you to want more. I think about the feeling I get when I succeed at something and it pleases me so much that I want more. I believe we all have that pure desire to please our soul and experience the genuine appreciation it gives in return, Find that gem within your day that hold that exhilarating recognition from your entire being, that is the essential ritual we have to incorporate in our day to day living so one day we will wake up and it will no longer be a practice but part of your existence in the world , and when you have mastered the art of internal bliss give it away to someone else.
How to Set Goals: 10 Steps to Stay Focused
For most people, creating goals is easy! The execution and application is the struggle. As Diana Scharf Hunt says, “Goals are just dreams with a deadline!” Everyone has dreams, but successful people turn them into goals that they accomplish. In order to ensure you reach the finish line with your goals achieved, here are 10 steps to help you move from dreamer to doer.
1. Utilize the SMART Goal Approach
We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, therefore, is not an act but a habit. – Aristotle
SMART goals have been utilized for years, because they work. Make sure your goals are:
A specific goal will usually answer the five Ws (What, Why, Who, Where, and Which). Writing specific objectives fleshes out your goal so you can easily identify what you want to accomplish.
If your goal isn’t measurable, there will be no way to know if you’re making progress. You need to address the question, “How will I know when this is accomplished?”
Your goal must be something that you can realistically attain. I would love to fly like a bird by jumping off a cliff with no parachute, but gravity would have the last word in that interaction. However, learning to jump off a cliff with a hang glider is more realistic.
If your goal doesn’t mean anything to you, then it isn’t worth pursuing. Tie your goals to your deeper values to give them more meaning. Make sure you are behind the goal 100% so you stay motivated to achieve it.
You need to have a deadline. Otherwise it’s just a dream that never becomes reality. Putting down a deadline makes you more committed to bringing it to fruition.
2. Write your goals down and display them!
“I hear and I forget; I see and I remember; I write and I understand.” – Chinese Proverb
A large portion of your goal is already accomplished as soon as you write it down. A study showed that among people who wrote down their goals with actionable commitments that they put into weekly progress reportsand shared with friends, 76% accomplished them. This is in comparison to a control group who were just asked to think about their goals. In this group, only 43% accomplished their objectives. Writing down your goals makes them real; they are tangible words on paper, not an ethereal dream in your mind.
3. Break big goals into smaller ones!
“How do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time!”
It’s the same for big goals! Break them down into manageable weekly and daily actionable bites. If you don’t, you can sometimes lose motivation if the goal seems far away or too big to accomplish.
4. Make an action plan and follow it!
“If you fail to plan, you are planning to fail!” – Benjamin Franklin
The best gift you can give yourself is a well thought-out action plan. Take time to organize all of your smaller daily and weekly goals in one place so you can easily check your progress or send it to others to hold you accountable.
5. Do your goals as early in the day as possible!
“The sun has not caught me in bed in fifty years.” – Thomas Jefferson
If you study successful people, you will find that most of the time they do more before the sun rises than the rest of the world does in a day. Get your goals done first thing in the morning to feel like you’ve started your day right. That way, you will always find time to do them.
6. Tell others your goals to keep you accountable!
“Accountability breeds response-ability.” – Steven R. Covey
When you know someone is going to check your progress, it lights a fire under you to follow through. Find a good friend or mentor who will take on the role of motivator and occasional butt-kicker. You will come to value this service immensely when you see your efficiency and effectiveness improve.
7. Make sure your goals excite you!
“If you want to live a happy life, tie it to a goal, not to people or things.” – Albert Einstein
Your goals should be a source of joy in your life. They should be one of the main reasons you get out of bed in the morning. If your goals don’t excite you, then you need to re-evaluate them.
8. Use positive language in your goals!
“The major reason for setting a goal is for what it makes of you to accomplish it. What it makes of you will always be the far greater value than what you get.” – Jim Rohn
Setting and accomplishing your goals changes you. You become a positive person who is more excited about life. Make sure your goals reflect this. Don’t say, “My goal is not to mess up today.” Instead your goal could say, “My goal is to excel today in my career by doing X, Y, and Z.” Do you see the language difference? No one can get passionate about going through the day trying to avoid something negative. Instead, turn it around so you spend your day chasing and catching success.
9. Set goals in multiple life areas!
“The greatest danger for most of us is not that our aim is too high and we miss it, but that it is too low and we reach it.” – Michelangelo
Don’t just reserve your goals for your career. You should challenge yourself to set fitness goals, finance goals, family goals, relationships goals, educational goals, spiritual goals, health goals, and adventure goals. Every area of your life that you value should have a goal to help you improve upon it.
10. Set performance vs. outcome goals!
“The ultimate reason for setting goals is to entice you to become the person it takes to achieve them.” – Jim Rohn
Many things are outside your control. For example, you may have an adventure goal to climb Mount Everest. You follow an action plan and train daily. You reach the moment when you are ready to ascend the mountain’s icy slopes with your team. Suddenly, a huge storm turns you back. The weather was out of your sphere of influence. You met all of your performance goals. Just because the outcome didn’t happen this time does not mean you failed. You were prepared. Life just happened and you weren’t able to climb the mountain – this time. However, regardless of the outcome, you became the person who could climb your mountain should life open the door. That’s the deeper endeavor. When you set your goals, don’t say, “My goal is to climb Mt. Everest by January 2014.” Instead, say, “My goal is to be completely prepared to climb Mt. Everest by January 2014, and to do all that is within my power to reach the top.” The first goal is only attainable if everything works in your favor. The second goal is completely attainable, as it depends solely on you.
“In the long run, men hit only what they aim at. Therefore, they had better aim at something high.” – Henry David Thoreau
So what are you aiming for? If your answer is nothing, then you probably won’t like what you get out of this life. Instead of simply drifting along reacting to what life brings you, take proactive steps to go out and create the future you want. While we can’t control everything that happens to us, we can control ourselves by following goals that bring out our passion for life.