What makes most of want to say hello when were walking by a stranger, what makes us hold the door for someone before we go ahead of them, what makes us want to be the best person we can be, what makes us sad when we see others hurt, whats makes us let the guy with one container of milk ahead of in line, and what makes us go without so someone else can have. I ask myself these questions because I know and see the act of human decency every day, but still, we have deep hate in this world. How can we be good and kind to someone but hateful and disrespectful to others, are you making the choice not to be that person who is kind and loving to fellow man, or are you making a choice to be other than who you truly are, and not showing human kindness and decency. It is a choice and we all have the ability to be entirely good to our fellow man.
There is hope for humanity and I believe we are moving in the direction of being the best we can be. I see that people are really making an effort to do better and also help others do better, and we need a lot more of that, A simple act of kindness and a hand to help your fellow man. There is nothing love cannot heal, no barrier it cannot break, it is the most powerful emotion we possess and I will do my part to give as much of it away I can as humanly possible, I believe in us and I pray that we as a connected energy continue to evolve in the most positive and transcending way.
How sure are you in yourself and who you are because it will be tested. In life, there will be challenges and forces that seem to work against you, people that turn their backs and turn on you, rejection disappoinment and all the other unpredictable blows that life hands you, but thats why knowing who you are and what you want is enormously important.,I know you have to believe in your purpose or dream and honor it by giving it a name and speaking about it every chance you get even if it is to yourself, we have to give it life and trust it to change yours. If you are secure and centered in yourself no mateer what predicaments and challeges come along you will stand strong in your in your awareness and ability to carry through in the direction of your purpose, there is nothing that can stop you but you. Life is going to happen with or without us, and no, we cannot predict what will happen but we can choose to continue our journey to accomplish our dreams and purpose in life. No one can take it from you because it was made for you and it it yours, what ever it is , it is yours.
When you take the mystery from your minds next move you free your life to boundless possibilities, I know I have said this before but it is a daily ritual to surrender to every opportunity and create the experience you desire. If you feed your mind with positive affirmations and choices directed towards succeeding at something in your day it becomes a habit, no matter how small the accomplishment is it ignites the fire that pushes you to want more. I think about the feeling I get when I succeed at something and it pleases me so much that I want more. I believe we all have that pure desire to please our soul and experience the genuine appreciation it gives in return, Find that gem within your day that hold that exhilarating recognition from your entire being, that is the essential ritual we have to incorporate in our day to day living so one day we will wake up and it will no longer be a practice but part of your existence in the world , and when you have mastered the art of internal bliss give it away to someone else.
How to Set Goals: 10 Steps to Stay Focused
For most people, creating goals is easy! The execution and application is the struggle. As Diana Scharf Hunt says, “Goals are just dreams with a deadline!” Everyone has dreams, but successful people turn them into goals that they accomplish. In order to ensure you reach the finish line with your goals achieved, here are 10 steps to help you move from dreamer to doer.
1. Utilize the SMART Goal Approach
We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, therefore, is not an act but a habit. – Aristotle
SMART goals have been utilized for years, because they work. Make sure your goals are:
A specific goal will usually answer the five Ws (What, Why, Who, Where, and Which). Writing specific objectives fleshes out your goal so you can easily identify what you want to accomplish.
If your goal isn’t measurable, there will be no way to know if you’re making progress. You need to address the question, “How will I know when this is accomplished?”
Your goal must be something that you can realistically attain. I would love to fly like a bird by jumping off a cliff with no parachute, but gravity would have the last word in that interaction. However, learning to jump off a cliff with a hang glider is more realistic.
If your goal doesn’t mean anything to you, then it isn’t worth pursuing. Tie your goals to your deeper values to give them more meaning. Make sure you are behind the goal 100% so you stay motivated to achieve it.
You need to have a deadline. Otherwise it’s just a dream that never becomes reality. Putting down a deadline makes you more committed to bringing it to fruition.
2. Write your goals down and display them!
“I hear and I forget; I see and I remember; I write and I understand.” – Chinese Proverb
A large portion of your goal is already accomplished as soon as you write it down. A study showed that among people who wrote down their goals with actionable commitments that they put into weekly progress reportsand shared with friends, 76% accomplished them. This is in comparison to a control group who were just asked to think about their goals. In this group, only 43% accomplished their objectives. Writing down your goals makes them real; they are tangible words on paper, not an ethereal dream in your mind.
3. Break big goals into smaller ones!
“How do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time!”
It’s the same for big goals! Break them down into manageable weekly and daily actionable bites. If you don’t, you can sometimes lose motivation if the goal seems far away or too big to accomplish.
4. Make an action plan and follow it!
“If you fail to plan, you are planning to fail!” – Benjamin Franklin
The best gift you can give yourself is a well thought-out action plan. Take time to organize all of your smaller daily and weekly goals in one place so you can easily check your progress or send it to others to hold you accountable.
5. Do your goals as early in the day as possible!
“The sun has not caught me in bed in fifty years.” – Thomas Jefferson
If you study successful people, you will find that most of the time they do more before the sun rises than the rest of the world does in a day. Get your goals done first thing in the morning to feel like you’ve started your day right. That way, you will always find time to do them.
6. Tell others your goals to keep you accountable!
“Accountability breeds response-ability.” – Steven R. Covey
When you know someone is going to check your progress, it lights a fire under you to follow through. Find a good friend or mentor who will take on the role of motivator and occasional butt-kicker. You will come to value this service immensely when you see your efficiency and effectiveness improve.
7. Make sure your goals excite you!
“If you want to live a happy life, tie it to a goal, not to people or things.” – Albert Einstein
Your goals should be a source of joy in your life. They should be one of the main reasons you get out of bed in the morning. If your goals don’t excite you, then you need to re-evaluate them.
8. Use positive language in your goals!
“The major reason for setting a goal is for what it makes of you to accomplish it. What it makes of you will always be the far greater value than what you get.” – Jim Rohn
Setting and accomplishing your goals changes you. You become a positive person who is more excited about life. Make sure your goals reflect this. Don’t say, “My goal is not to mess up today.” Instead your goal could say, “My goal is to excel today in my career by doing X, Y, and Z.” Do you see the language difference? No one can get passionate about going through the day trying to avoid something negative. Instead, turn it around so you spend your day chasing and catching success.
9. Set goals in multiple life areas!
“The greatest danger for most of us is not that our aim is too high and we miss it, but that it is too low and we reach it.” – Michelangelo
Don’t just reserve your goals for your career. You should challenge yourself to set fitness goals, finance goals, family goals, relationships goals, educational goals, spiritual goals, health goals, and adventure goals. Every area of your life that you value should have a goal to help you improve upon it.
10. Set performance vs. outcome goals!
“The ultimate reason for setting goals is to entice you to become the person it takes to achieve them.” – Jim Rohn
Many things are outside your control. For example, you may have an adventure goal to climb Mount Everest. You follow an action plan and train daily. You reach the moment when you are ready to ascend the mountain’s icy slopes with your team. Suddenly, a huge storm turns you back. The weather was out of your sphere of influence. You met all of your performance goals. Just because the outcome didn’t happen this time does not mean you failed. You were prepared. Life just happened and you weren’t able to climb the mountain – this time. However, regardless of the outcome, you became the person who could climb your mountain should life open the door. That’s the deeper endeavor. When you set your goals, don’t say, “My goal is to climb Mt. Everest by January 2014.” Instead, say, “My goal is to be completely prepared to climb Mt. Everest by January 2014, and to do all that is within my power to reach the top.” The first goal is only attainable if everything works in your favor. The second goal is completely attainable, as it depends solely on you.
“In the long run, men hit only what they aim at. Therefore, they had better aim at something high.” – Henry David Thoreau
So what are you aiming for? If your answer is nothing, then you probably won’t like what you get out of this life. Instead of simply drifting along reacting to what life brings you, take proactive steps to go out and create the future you want. While we can’t control everything that happens to us, we can control ourselves by following goals that bring out our passion for life.
In a state of chronic sufferance, there are little to no choices, a prayer is quickly converted to a plea, a life of limitations and ignorance is an imprisonment and this is what we do to ourselves, a life without choices is a life not worth living at all. When we are blessed with choices you hold the power to change your state of being to a positive and unfamiliar but liberating experience, but we have to make the choice that frees us one choice at a time. It is so important to know what we want because then we know what to ask for, there is power in having a choice because that one choice turns into an opportunity that can change your life. Search your heart and soul and ask what it wants from you and then choose to just do it, give yourself the choice and then create the opportunity to use it. Whatever it looks like do things to bring it forward in your life and it won’t be pretty in the beginning but the actions you take will groom it and create a beautiful opportunity, and what’s makes it beautiful is it’s just for you, take it and understand that it is your power.
Welcome Welcome, I have to tell you this is a hard place but it has to start here, I remember this place, It was so unkind and merciless but The raw truth was what I needed to understand where I was, I was uncomfortable in the skin I was in, Fist this will only happen if one thing happens, enlightenment has had to already happen because otherwise you would still be wrapped up in your pretty packages or in your cloud of unawareness, believing you have gotten everything you can from this life and contented. Let me just share something with you about those packages you’re wrapped up in and force yourself to believe you’re fine because it looks good on the outside, and that’s how you hide from the world and anything that is going to challenge you to wiggle around and feel something. the packages are worst because you will never get what you need, you will not grow and that package is not preserving you, you are still rotting from the inside out just like the rest of us that have checked out of the race, but you’re not even breathing the fresh air, the wrappers are not going to remove themselves they will never give you room to breathe, this is where you ripped those wrappers off and join us out here in the world, where it is difficult, and it’s unfair and you may have to feel a little bit, but you have to give yourself this chance.There is power in confronting your fears, disarming and neutralizing what has caused unproductivity leaves that thing ineffective, drawing it out of the corners of your existence and facing it head-on gives you back the power it has held over you.
There are things you know it’s time to let go and forgive some people you never thought you could and listen it’s not about them it’s about you powering up. The old habits people places and things have to take a back seat, and if it or they are not worthy then they can’t even get in the car, but the things that have kept you bound have to be replaced with the things that help free you. So listen’ it’s you, and you have to throw yourself in unknown territory, things, and people that are not like you, where you can learn how to not be what you’re escaping. When I was at this point I was so desperate, I was choking on my tears, the air I was breathing was killing me, I knew my time was up doing the things I did and the way I did them, I knew it but I didn’t know how to change it, I was clawing my way out of the hole I lived in for so long but there were no how-tos, I needed somebody right there supporting me guiding me through the dark, so I am here to support you in that way. There is power in confronting your fears, disarming and neutralizing what has caused unproductivity leaves that thing ineffective, drawing it out of the corners of your existence and facing it head-on gives you back the power it has held over you.I can’t do this without you, please let me support you…I love you and I need you to show me how to be greatly free.
Self-development is key, Hers are some things you can try doing that help me connect with myself, Lisa Nichols offered this suggestion in one of her motivational videos, and I loved it.
get a piece of paper and write these things down and put it on your bathroom mirror so you see it every morning, and you won’t forget to start your day with his practice;
- Your Name, I’m proud that you (7 things)
- Your Name, I forgive you for (7 things)
- Your Name, I commit to that (7 things) (From Lisa Nichols)
If you were going to install new flooring in your home, would you determine how much material to order by measuring the size of the room with a random stick? Probably not. Hopefully, you’d use a tape measure that would accurately help you calculate the dimensions. Yet, when it comes to measuring self-worth, many people use something just as unreliable as a random stick.
We all have some sort of measuring stick that we use to determine our value as a human being. When we feel like we’re measuring up, we feel good about ourselves. But, when we feel like we’ve fallen short, our self-esteem can plummet.
Despite the fact that our measuring stick has so much influence over how we feel about ourselves, most people aren’t even conscious of what they’re using to determine their self-worth. But they are conscious of the fluctuations they experience in how they feel about themselves.
There are many different ways people measure their worthiness, and some of them aren’t healthy. Here are five common – yet potentially hazardous – ways people measure their self-worth:
1. Who You’re Surrounded By
There are a few different ways that people depend on others to give them value. While one person may think her worth depends on how much praise she receives from others, someone else may only feel good about herself when she’s in a relationship.
At other times, individuals feel worthy by surrounding themselves with important people. Rubbing shoulders with rich celebrities or “movers and shakers,” fuels their self-importance. A busy social calendar and a lengthy list of personal contacts helps them feel valuable.
Making your self-worth dependent upon others, however, is like chasing a moving target. You can’t control other people and you can’t please everyone all the time. If you base your self-worth entirely upon how others perceive you, you’ll never be able to receive enough praise or positive reinforcement to feel good about yourself.
2. What You Do
A career helps many people feel valued. Some people are quick to say something like, “I’m the co-founder of XYZ company,” or “I’m a lawyer,” not because it’s what they do – but because it’s who they are. Their career reinforces to them that they’re “somebody.”
Basing your self-worth on your job title is a big risk. A health problem, economic downturn, or unexpected shift in the job market may interfere with your career and lead to a major identity crisis. Even a planned retirement could wreak havoc on your self-worth if your identity is tied to your job title. In the absence of a high profile career, you won’t be able to feel good about yourself if you’ve always measured your self-worth by what you do.
3. How Much Money You Have
We’ve all met people who measure their self-worth by the size of their bank accounts. Sometimes people feel like they just can’t acquire enough wealth to be “valuable enough.” In a desperate attempt to prove their worth, they create a façade of wealth by going deeply into debt in hopes a luxury car or beautiful home will help them feel good about themselves.
While it makes sense to place a monetary value on goods and services, it doesn’t make sense to use money to determine your value as a human being. The amount of money you earn or expensive possessions you own will never be enough to satisfy your need to feel worthy.
4. What You Achieve
Sometimes people want to be known solely for their accomplishments. That person who always brags about her latest business venture may only feel good about herself when she is talking about her accomplishments. Or that person who just can’t stop beating himself up about that time that he failed, might struggle to move on because that one incident completely crushed his self-worth.
While it’s normal for your accomplishments to make you feel good, basing your entire self-worth on your achievements is like building your house on an unsteady foundation. You’ll need to experience repeated success in order to feel good about yourself – and that’s hard to maintain over the long-haul.
5. How You Look
While some people measure their self-worth by the numbers on a scale, others determine their value based on their ability to attract attention with their appearance. The media certainly fuels the notion that “you’re only as good as you look.” Marketing strategies frequently target our insecurities about everything from aging to weight gain.
If you were fortunate enough to be blessed with good looks, your beauty may serve as an advantage in life. But, a handsome face or a beautiful body won’t last forever. Wrinkles, a middle-age spread, gray hair, or a receding hairline can become catastrophic for anyone whose self-worth depends on their physical appearance.
Feeling Good About Who You Are
The way you choose to measure your worth as a person will serve as a major factor in the choices you make, the thoughts you have about life, and the way you feel about yourself. Know what measuring stick you’re using to determine your value and measure your self-worth based on the factors you can control – not the external events in your life.
When you know who you are – and you’re pleased with the person you’ve become – you’ll maintain a sense of peace throughout life’s inevitable ups and downs. Rather than experience major fluctuations in how you feel about yourself based on your latest success or most recent failure, you’ll believe in yourself regardless.
Measure your self-worth by who you are at your core. Doing so will help you focus on behaving according to your values, instead of chasing the things that will temporarily boost your self-esteem.
Amy Morin is a psychotherapist and the author of 13 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Do.
I know as women I am limitless and what I do will always be done out of love, we as women have to love ourselves again because what we have to offer this world is only something we can do. God has created us to be the most important source of life, we create it we nourish and nurture and we have to have the courage to live again in our greatness.
14 Foundational Verses Every Today’s Purpose Woman Should Hide In Her Heart
HERE ARE A FEW BIBLE VERSES TO KEEP CLOSE TO YOUR HEART AS YOU BOLDLY WALK IN YOUR PURPOSE
1. Matthew 6:33 Seek the kingdom of God above all else, and live righteously, and he will give you everything you need.
2. Joshua 1:9 This is my command- be strong and courageous! Do not be afraid or discouraged. For the LORD your God is with you wherever you go.”
3. 2 Timothy 1:7 For the spirit God gave us does not make us timid, but gives us power,
love and self-discipline.
4. Proverbs 3:3 Let love and faithfulness never leave you; bind them around your neck, write them on the tablet of your heart.
5. Proverbs 3:5-6 Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.
6. Galatians 5:22-23 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law.
7. Philippians 4:13 I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.
8. Psalm 139:14 I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.
9. Galatians 6:9 Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.
10. 1 Peter 5:7 Casting all your care upon him; for he careth for you.
11. John 8:36 So if the son sets you free, you will be free indeed.
12. 2 Thessalonians 3:16 Now may the Lord of peace himself give you peace at all times and in every way. The Lord be with all of you.
13. 1 Peter 5:6 Humble yourselves, therefore, under God’s mighty hand, that he may lift you up in due time.
14. Luke 1:45 Blessed is she who believed that the Lord would fulfill his promises to her