Habit can be a detriment to growth when it gets in the way of doing and discovering new things in life that have been put in place for only you to discover, and to direct you to the next phase or chapter in life. When you can realize and are aware of those rare opportunities that only happen every so often, and habit prevents you from reaching for them and entering new paths and journeys, your habit becomes a hindrance. It isn’t so simple to just change a habit, it is a mindset that has to be adjusted, and like many other obstacles, it requires acknowledgment, acceptance, and determination to be willing to welcome what has been made for you as you journey through life.
I want to share with you guys something that made me think, and it is actually calling me to act, Does Your Public Self Line Up With Your Personal Self, (Devon Franklin). Now you know what this means, it means do you honor yourself internally and personally the way you perform or conduct your self publicly, and I have to admit I can do a lot better. I believe when these two acts line up together you are at peace, and there is nothing to hide or nothing to fabricate, you are just who you say you are. I do believe you have to hit a level of maturity and to figure out if you want the world to know you are to know what you want them to know, there is a difference and I guess you have to begin with knowing yourself and who you are most of all what can you offer of yourself in service to others. I know I have some work to do but I learn something today, and when you learn you teach Maya Angelou,
You are who you say you are, You are who you think you are, and who is that you say you are?
These words have become a mantra, It is simply a call to show up to and in your life, It can’t be misunderstood or misinterpreted, its a conversation we already have with ourselves but for many reasons, it’s dismissed. This is one of the most important conversation we need to have, not only the question but what is your answer, and what are you doing with it, are we answering that question and then not doing anything , or are we answering and not happy with the response in turn pretending we haven’t a clue, “tell me whats happening” because nothing will ever change until we have the answer and then do something to reflect it. We allow other people to tell us who we are or should be, what we want or will have, what we do and have done, most importantly what you will do. Now if you think the questions will ever change and you won’t be called upon your mistaken, now what can change is how many times you ask yourself and boldly answer with authority and purpose. You are who you say you are, You are who you think you are, Who is it that you say you are?
I can speak for myself but I know I’m not alone, I have believed what everybody has shown me, I lived in mediocracy and my time is up. It has a face a name I cannot describe but the chains are real if you do not understand by now that your choices and story has to change I am concerned because I will not stay bound and I want you to make that same decision as well and join me in breaking out.
Wake up tomorrow with the Lords grace but also with a new perspective, what makes you happy, can you see your dream go there live there while your life catches up and dream another dream.
The small steps are the big game changers.
Here are some tips I find helpful, try it give you a chance,
A life of regret is no life at all. Sure, we all have regrets for things we’ve done, mistakes made and opportunities lost. But if we make a conscious decision every day to minimize those regrets, we will lead a happier more fulfilling life. And hopefully those around us will as well.
These sixteen ways to live a happier more fulfilling life come from my past and present experiences from getting it right, as well as getting it wrong. They are delivered in no particular order.
Prioritize your time wisely.
As we all know, life moves at the speed of light. Time is our most precious asset. Wake up each day with a plan to accomplish something meaningful. Something you will feel good about when you turn out the light that night.
Build relationships over possessions.
You won’t be taking your possessions with you nor are they a meaningful source of lasting happiness. The relationships you build and the lives you impact will be your legacy.
Take what you can from life, but always give back.
There is nothing wrong with investing in yourself and your future. For pursuing success in all areas of your life. But one of the best ways to seek happiness is through service to others. Remember that giving time is more valuable than giving money.
Be accountable for your words and actions.
Accountability is the path to true accomplishment. Personal accountability is infectious and others in your life will follow suit. Always consider the consequences of your words and actions. Not doing so can be a fast track to regret.
Be disciplined in your personal and professional life.
Being accountable requires discipline. Discipline is the only way to discover your best personal self: the cross section of purpose, talent, and effort. Discipline leads to accomplishing goals and avoiding bad decisions.
Expunge hate from your heart.
Life is too short. This too requires discipline. Hate will consume you, exhaust you and distract from the positive aspects of your life. Put your ego aside and replace it with humility.
Forgive yourself and others quickly.
We all make mistakes, hurt those we love and meander off the path of righteousness at times. The faster we forgive ourselves and others the more time and energy we have for love.
Put your family first.
Your family relies on you to be strong, to lead, mentor and provide for them. Making time for work and hobbies is important, but every now and then we need to remember that making more money or the extra round of golf can wait.
Find purpose in your life’s work.
Without purpose, it’s hard to truly be passionate. And without passion, it’s impossible to inspire and lead others. Living a purpose-driven life is the foundation of fulfillment and happiness. Find your purpose and pursue it relentlessly.
Chase your dreams and never quit.
As a former Navy SEAL, the never-quit attitude is ingrained in me forever. Just make sure you are pursuing the right “dreams” that will add value to your life and others. Dreams that are aligned with your purpose.
Pursue passions bigger than yourself.
If we don’t break outside of our comfort zones and find pursuits that leave a positive impact on the world, we live a very small life.
Don’t hold on too tight.
I often find this very hard to do, but sometimes we just have to let go and have a little faith. There are things simply out of our control and we can drive ourselves crazy trying to contain them.
Lead by example on and off the battlefield.
We all have the opportunity to lead in our lives. At home, work, in our communities. But leadership requires consistency of character. Actions speak louder than words.
Protect those who can’t protect themselves.
This doesn’t mean we all have to grab a weapon and head down range. It can come in the form of a simple gesture. Don’t stand on the sidelines with your smartphone. Do something.
Strive to improve a little bit every day.
If we can attempt to improve ourselves even 1% each day, at the end of a year we will be 37x better than when we started. Improvement requires regular learning, feedback, and reflection. But don’t forget to take action as well.
Leave no regrets on the battlefield of life.
As Tecumseh said in his poem “Death Song”:
“When it comes your time to die, be not like those whose hearts are filled with the fear death, so that they weep and pray for a little more time to live their lives over again in a different way. Sing your death song and die like a hero going home.”
Take a few minutes each day to reflect on how to practice these tips and see what happens!